“Laying Roots” (Part 2 of 2)

The following post is the second of a two-part entry here on the Changing Lives, Changing Minds blog.

The piece, entitled “Laying Roots,” came to Changing Lives Through Literature co-founder Bob Waxler, along with a letter from author Robin Ledbetter. Robin is currently serving a fifty-year sentence at York Correctional facility in Niantic, CT and, after hearing about the CLTL program and CLCM blog, hoped to share her story with our audience.

This is the second and final installment of Robin’s memoir here on CLCM entitled “Laying Roots.”

In the years I have been in York Correctional, I have learned to appreciate my life. I learned that I am worthy of love and care, and being treated like a person. I learned that I didn’t deserve the things I endured growing up – the abuse, the neglect – from years of childhood trauma.

In that process, I’ve learned the true value of human life and with that knowledge I came to understand the devastation of my crime. It hit me like a runaway freight train, crushing me and dismantling me. It pulled apart all the work that I did when I thought of the pain I caused. I felt like I was drowning in the guilt and thought I could never forgive myself for what I did. The beginning of that realization led to my first attempt at suicide while incarcerated.

I didn’t want to live with what I did. I spent two weeks in the hospital and came right back to my cell to sit with my guilt, shame, and a need to make amends, knowing that I really couldn’t. That was in the first year of my bid – before I was even sentenced.

Four months after my eighteenth birthday I was handed down the sentence of fifty years. I sat in a courtroom and saw the father of my victim look me square in the eye and let me know just how much he hated me. I sat perfectly still, afraid even to breathe, as he told the court why I should rot in jail. I didn’t feel worthy of breath. I felt as though every molecule in my body was on fire. I felt that I deserved every harsh word he said and deserved to be in jail.

I was numb when I read the judge read the list of charges and the time attached to each. All my feelings and emotions went to my victim’s father and to keeping it together in the courtroom. I didn’t feel I was allowed the luxury of shedding a tear for myself. It would be disrespectful to the real victims; it would make a mockery of their pain. I thought they’d point an accusatory finger at me and yell: “How dare you act sorry now! How dare you care now? You’re looking for sympathy? We’re the only ones in pain here, not you! How dare you! How dare you! How dare you…”


“Ledbetter, Med-line on the door!” says the nurse outside that huge window. Her voice jars me from my thoughts.

I stare at her for a few seconds, blinking back the memories. Is it worth me moving to get the meds that will quiet my thoughts?

“Do you want them or not?” she says, annoyed. I can see the guard peering me at me over her shoulder. He has his clipboard in his hand and when I sit up, he writes on it, marking my progress. I saw nothing and take my time peeling the heavy blanket from my body, readjusting the heavy gown. My neck is still sore and I shuffle to the door, the trap slams open. I put my hand through the slot. The nurse places some pills in my hand and I put them in my mouth, stuck with the thought that I haven’t needed medication for a long time.

I had been off my anti-depressants for a while now, and I never agreed to get back on them – but they were a part of the routine when you enter the mental health unit: you receive the universal cocktail. I swallow the pills with a shot of water, give a mouth check, and turn my back to the door. The trap scares me when it bangs shut. I take a few steps back to my bed and reclaim my place under the blanket.

I stare up; Na-na Loves John 4-eva. I try to focus on just that but my thoughts wander again. I ruined lives and I deserve to be in jail, but as I lay on this plastic mattress in mental health, I know that I don’t deserve to spend the rest of my life here.

I am more than I ever thought I could be. I am a loving person, giving and understanding. I have learned to love both myself as well as others. I have worked hard on my rehabilitation and I have grown. I have gotten my GED and learned some skills. I have done many groups and become a role model to a lot of the younger girls. I pass on my wisdom and knowledge. I have learned to communicate, to express myself, to be an individual, a leader. I have learned so much. I have bled this place of all the resources available to a woman with my time; now, I am just stagnant.

Because of the length of my sentence, I am not permitted to take college classes. I am blocked from partaking in other programming because of my sentence. I am only good now for scrubbing down the institution and maintaining its polished floors. I am only good now to shovel out slop in the chow hall and empty the trash. They want me to sweep, mop, and window wash this jail for the next thirty-eight years and I am supposed to choose life over death?

I often ask the guards, “Do you remember what you were doing what you were fourteen years old? How has your perception of reality changed? Can you draw a graph of who you were at fourteen, at eighteen, at twenty-one, twenty-five, or thirty – and then protect yourself at sixty-four? Can you chart your growth, the lessons you have learned? Can you still laugh at something you once thought was so funny, so important, at that age, but you now know is nonsense? Would you like to wear a scarlet letter on your chest for the rest of your life for the things you did at the age of fourteen? How about a life sentence?”

They stutter; even the hardest of guards admit that it’s a mind-blowing concept. I deal with this every day, and that is why I am wearing this safety gown right now. This is why, occasionally, I cannot fathom living this life another day.

I used to feel like a flower that was found dried out and wilting, ready to die. I was repotted, watered, and cared for until I shed my old petals and bloomed into my beautiful potential. Now that I have flourished and sprouted healthy roots, I need a garden where I can continue to grow. My roots have outgrown the pot and I am slowly strangling myself. What else am I to do except to double back on myself? My growth betrays me as my beauty is wrung from me, a little more each day. I am wasting away in here. This place, this pot, can only take me so far. Don’t I deserve a chance to act upon my changes, chase my dreams, reach my goals, and live?

I exist in York Correctional, but now that I am correct, where do I go from here? Now that I have been saved from another attempt on my life, what do I do with that life? This is the last thought on my mind as I look out at the guard perched outside my window. Where do I go from here? This is my last thought as the meds kick in and I drift off to sleep. Where do I go from here?


It is now 2010, and it has been a little over two years since my last attempt at suicide. Since then I have grown even more. I made a promise to myself that I would never again try to end my life and take for granted the blessing God has given me. I am here for a reason. He has saved me from so many things, including myself, and now I realize that. I have earned my way into two mentoring programs. I am a facilitator in an Alternative to Violence group. I speak to at risk youth. I have a true spiritual connection with God and I live in a housing unit that is spiritually based. Some of my writing has been published, and it has given me a voice outside of here and blessed me with new and amazing friends who never let me feel sorry for myself and push me to do better things.

Just recently, the federal government passed a law stating that children under the age of eighteen cannot be sentenced to a life sentence if their crime did not result in the death of their victim. That doesn’t directly affect me, but it gives me hope. It lets me know that there are people willing to listen and give young offenders a chance at a new and rehabilitated life. It shines a light were darkness once was. I know that there is a chance at an expansion of the law and that it might apply to prisoners like me. I know that I will walk out of here once day and be the shining example that people can change. An example that, no matter what trauma someone has endured, no matter their family history or their past actions, there is no such things as a throw-away child.

I am now twenty-eight years old and I have spent the same amount of time in prison as I have out, and I have come so far. I will never stop growing. All I want is a chance to break free from the pot and lay roots in the ground.


7 thoughts on ““Laying Roots” (Part 2 of 2)

  1. As thevictim and also steadfast supporter of my husband who is serving time for his crime- I have had the unfortunate opportunity to see and hear the stories first-hand of men in similar situations. It absolutley breaks my heart! I understand they have taken a life but they were children or very young adults at the time and thinking of myself at the age that they committed their crimes, I know without a doubt I AM A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON… on all levels. I have a very hard time now given my exposure to this misguided “justice” system to understand the purpose of life sentences for individuals who commit these crimes at such a young age… Isn’t the purpose of incarceration, protection of the community, yes, but also REHABILITATION??? I feel that each individual should be fairly evaluated to determine how they have grown and changed as human beings through their experience within the corrections system. If they can show true remorse, the desire to better themselves through education, and the ability to conduct themselves according to what is expected of them on the inside- I believe they should be given the opportunity to re-enter society at some point… living without hope of a life outside of the prison walls is a recipe for depression, suicides and misbehavior. Makes NO sense…

  2. Robin, As i said before, keep writing. As you have seen, through your writing you are freed. You are in the homes of whomever is reading your essay. You are in my home right now, not behind bars.
    I can’t imagine being punished for something that I did as a 14 yr old. At that age people aren’t who they are going to be but justice has never been blind the way the symbol depicts and it is a rotten, corroded system.
    Keep expressing yourself through words and keep fighting for your deserved freedom.

  3. Robin, no, never stop growing–thinking, hoping, writing. As Sarah said, you’re in our homes and in our hearts.

  4. The stories of the raw truth are of most importance to me. I strive to represent these people in my own fictional writing so that others may have a better understanding of their struggle. Never justifying their actions, I offer alternatives. If Robin has found the strength to change, then this is more than I’ve seen in my own relationships, and I wish her success.

    Jennifer M. Hartsock

  5. I’m not sure if this will get to you, but I love you Robin and your voice is still being heard. Thinking about you, I googled your name and this is where it led me. Your a inspiration and I pray that justice will be served. Remember that God never places more on us than we can bare so your fate is in his hands. He needed you to endure all that you have for the sake of saving yourself and others. I have hope and I know you won’t be in there for many more years to follow. Love always, your cousin.

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